Posted by ClearSkies on May 20, 2008, at 20:45:42
In reply to A mixed bag, posted by ClearSkies on May 14, 2008, at 14:53:39
About boundaries. She has very clear boundaries and has no trouble whatever enforcing them. If she wants to be with you, she'll get as close as she wants. She'll tolerate being handled if it's in exactly the right places for exactly the correct amount of time. The second your hand strays to a spot that is Off Limits for her, she just jumps away. No hissing or growling; she's just beyond your reach. Same with once the petting thing has gone on long enough.
She doesn't seem the least bit neurotic, especially compared to me, lately. I'm as skittish as, well, as a cat in a room full of rocking chairs. Hair-trigger responses to any kind of pressure from my DH (having to do with our business, for instance). He seems to be pretty neutral, and I seem to be the one in the relationship holding all the emotion. What would it feel like to let all of that go? Where would I be without those thoughts, that I *had* to respond to his pressure?
So what if I just bounced out of the room, say, until I didn't feel triggered any more? To NOT respond to what I feel is a push, or a trigger. Can I do it?
I must watch my happy cat more closely.
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