Posted by rickoshay on October 15, 2003, at 8:51:23
In reply to Has anyone else here lost a child?, posted by Carol F on October 7, 2003, at 16:26:31
Yes Carol,I lost my 20 year old son last march in a car crash.I believe losing one's child is the most monstrous cruelty life could visit upon any parent.All assumptions of some kind of order and meaning to life seem to vanish as quickly as the instant between one's childs existence and non-existence.The pain is immense;birthdays,clothes,photos just to name a few "triggers" seem to be everywhere.How to deal with it? Frankly,I don't know.I think the residual pain is a measure of ones love for a precious gift and in the same breath an indicator of the existence of some power that must be divine to have created such a blessing.Beyond that is above my capacity to understand.Try your hardest to be good to yourself,seek out friends..real friends who will listen.Professional help too, couldn't come at a better time.Finally there is an organization called "compassionate friends" that I believe is nationwide which deals specifically with bereavement.Local chapters shouldn't be hard to locate.Good luck,and God bless and protect you on this long road.
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