Posted by Greg on June 12, 2002, at 14:59:28
In reply to Re: Sudden end to Group Therapy, posted by mair on June 12, 2002, at 7:00:31
I appreciate the feedback everyone, this whole thing has really caught me off guard. I’ll try to address the questions the best I can.
Judy, he is actually my one-on-one therapist. He convinced me that I would benefit from being in a group atmosphere. It has left me wondering now if there was just a space to be filled and I just happened to be in the right place at the wrong time. He requires us to give him a 2 week notice before leaving the group and he did the same with us, but so many of us had notified him that we would be taking the 24th off, that he saw no sense in only having the last group for one person. He did offer his services to all of us on an individual basis, but given what happened, I don’t think I want to go back to him. I certainly don’t have the energy right now to start over with someone new. Sigh…
Riverrick, I will definitely let him know (hopefully in a constructive way) how I feel about the whole thing. And I do want to say my goodbyes to everyone. There are a few there that I’m hoping to stay in contact with. One guy in particular that I really made a connection with, we really helped each other a lot. You’re right, it is going to be difficult.
Hi C-Kitty! Yeah, those were his exact words. Like I said, I had my “whatever” attitude on at the time and shrugged it off at the time. I really feel now that he didn’t think he was getting what HE wanted out of the group and didn’t feel it was worth his time. I don’t know, maybe he thinks he’s doing the right thing. We have lost a few members lately and he hasn’t been able to fill those spots. If he thinks it’s going to fall apart anyway, maybe it’s better to end it gracefully that to have it disintegrate? I just feel like I would have like to have been given a say in the matter, I am paying for the service after all. Your idea about collectively finding another group is a great one and I’ll bring it up next week, thanks! I hope everything is good with you, expect an e-mail :).
Mair, nope, no apology. He actually seemed a little detached about the whole thing when I think about it. He was very straight-forward that he had made the decision, we were free to talk about it (which no one did), but it was a done deal. For a man who has been extremely sensitive to the needs of other people in the time I’ve known him, he was very out of character. As I’m writing this I’m wondering now if there might be something going on in his personal life that prompted this? Hmmm…
Oh well, another day, another chapter. Thanks again for the help everyone. I’ll let you know what happens next week.
Greg
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