Posted by shar on June 1, 2003, at 11:42:33
In reply to Re: Thanks for coming - Shar and others » mair, posted by noa on May 28, 2003, at 17:05:11
Dinah and Noa are right on!
What you did, while not of epic proportions, was a step onto a new path because you were aware of what was happening with the question, the anxiety, paralysis, etc. That would be a safe thing to talk about at some future therapy appointment--because looking back at something is not as taxing as when it originally happens.
So, it would be possible to talk about the incident and focus on what you felt when that occurred. That is one way of getting a grip on some of these powerful emotions and thoughts. It has taken me a long time to get to the point of saying "I feel a lot of shame that I am this way" or because of someone else (like feeling envious of someone in group because they have a lot of $$ leads me to feeling ashamed and worthless about where I am, or rather who I am). So, now I can sometimes say it out loud when it occurs, but that sure didn't happen overnight! And, probably, it shouldn't. I sort of believe we learn and grow as we can, we do as much as we can handle and that's good; more would just overwhelm us and we'd probably not be able to hold onto the message.
Keeping on is what it's all about, I think. Plodding, skipping, walking, strutting, staggering, crawling, running...all of those are what we do to keep going.
Thanks for taking us with you to your session!!
Shar
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