Posted by Penny on July 1, 2003, at 9:40:04
In reply to Re: Love with therapist » becca, posted by Dinah on July 1, 2003, at 9:16:27
> Did you get angry about the wedding ring and pregnancy issues? I mean teh pregnancy affected you since she presumably took maternity leave. And if you did, did she call your anger transference?
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> I'm not sure I believe in a completely blank slate. Even her actions in taking off the ring spoke volumes about her, and you could legitmately react to that without it being transference, don't you think?
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I agree. Having been through a pregnancy/maternity leave with my former therapist, it's impossible for that person to remain a blank slate, but that was good in my case b/c it allowed me to work through many of my issues regarding being jealous of her and jealous of her baby (I had the mother/child scenario). Brought up a lot of stuff that wouldn't have been so otherwise.My therapist now is much more forthcoming with information than my former therapist. And I really like that. I can see how it could be a problem knowing too much information, but knowing what I know about her makes it easier for me to connect with her. For example, we share a love of animals, which means a lot to me, as well as a love of books. I suppose if that weren't the case, it could be detrimental, but in this case it works.
I guess I can see both sides of the situation, the pros and cons of the 'blank slate'. I prefer knowing a little more about my therapist.
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