Posted by fallsfall on February 25, 2004, at 11:00:30
In reply to Re: I asked for A Do-Over » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on February 25, 2004, at 10:36:39
I don't know about the PTSD and the nightmares, but I share Dinah's frustration. I keep feeling that decisions that he is making, and things that he is saying are for *his* benefit, rather than for *yours*. I will be charitable and say that I don't think he's a *bad" person - and I think that he will be a good therapist - I just think that he has a lot of learning to do right now. And I think that *you* are ending up bearing a lot of the pain for his learning.
He needs some experience. Unfortunately for you, I believe that *your* needs are for an experienced therapist (who won't let you avoid the issues, who won't be suckered by your "talents", who will show you how to relate without playing games).
The therapist-client relationship is all about "fit". Dinah would be miserable with my therapist, and it is likely that I wouldn't be very happy with hers. That doesn't say anything about Dinah or me or her therapist or mine. The point is that it is important to be working with a therapist who "fits" with you - who can give you what you need, when you need it (even if you don't want it).
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