Posted by noa on March 2, 2004, at 19:00:14
In reply to Re: Not exactly an answer to your question but...*MT*, posted by tinydancer on March 2, 2004, at 12:10:02
Your feelings are not bad feelings. They're just the feelings you have. I don't think transference eliminates the real interactions between people in the here and now, so you're right, it doesn't have to mean that all your feelings for the therapist are due to transference.
What would be bad is for the therapist to cross the boundary to allow a real social or sexual relationship to occur. It isn't bad for you to have the wish. But it is a big and important responsibility for the therapist to protect you and not act on your wish. Even after you finish therapy.
I think Kind Girl's story is helpful--the therapist/patient relationship is analogous to the teacher/student relationship in a lot of ways, even with adjustments for being an adult.
If your therapist is skilled, he will be able to help you see what you can discover and learn about yourself from exploring in therapy the wishes and feelings you feel, but not to act on it.
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