Posted by All Done on March 3, 2004, at 9:57:09
In reply to Your SO and your relationship with your T, posted by tinydancer on March 3, 2004, at 7:39:21
My husband pretty much stopped asking about my therapy after maybe six sessions, or so. Prior to that, he would only ask if we talked about him. In his defense, though, I think he knows that I share what I feel comfortable sharing it’s kind of useless to ask for more because I will just say everything was fine. Occasionally, I bring things up that I want to share or that I feel are important to share.
I’ve never discussed my transference feelings (erotic or otherwise) for my therapist with my husband. One time though, he asked if my therapist was attractive and I said honestly, “not as attractive as you.” I thought that response would facilitate an interesting discussion, but no such luck. He just moved on to the next topic.
Sometimes I wish he would ask more about my therapy, but I understand that by me going, it takes a lot of the self-imposed pressure off of him to “fix” me, so to speak. I let him enjoy the reprieve when I can because it’s a bit harder for him when I come home from my session and he can see that I’ve been crying or that I’m visibly upset. I just keep telling him that it gets worse before it gets better. Although, I don’t know that he gets that concept, yet. Wait, I don’t know that *I* get that concept, yet.
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