Posted by Dinah on March 5, 2004, at 19:11:35
In reply to Re: outsider » shortelise, posted by Fallen4myT on March 5, 2004, at 14:55:30
Oh my! That sounds terribly unpleasant. If I am a guilty party, I apologize profusely and assure you that it is totally inadvertant. I don't believe there is a single person on the board who I would deliberately ignore or refuse to respond to a reply.
Mind you, there are threads where I feel I can't really add anything useful, or where the answers already given sum up anything I might say. But a particular poster? Certainly not.
If you don't mind, might I share some unasked for advice?
It's great to meet people here who you instantly click with and have a lot in common with. But my richest and most eye opening experiences have come from getting to know people I might not otherwise get to know. People that initially I might not have connected with on board, or that I even had friction with. But as I watched them, I grew to see really fine qualities.
I understand wanting to protect yourself with your three strikes rule, but I can also see that you might be robbing yourself of some truly rewarding experiences by adhering rigidly to it. There are all sorts of reasons people might not reply that have nothing to do with whether or not you'd like to get to know them.
I think that the best advice is to just keep posting. When I first got here, I was positive that all my posts effectively ended a thread. That the threads I started were single post threads. And that I'd never fit in. But one day I said something that resonated with someone and they started conversing with me, and that drew me into other conversations, and eventually I didn't feel like the new kid. One day I'd like to learn to do that offline. :)
Dinah
P.S. Why don't you start threads? I always think threads are about topics, not people. Well, maybe the ones that ask for support are about people. But the ones that muse on a topic, I'm not even sure I always notice who started the thread. I just get interested in the topic and the different replies. So if you're musing about a topic, or if you want some support, why *not* start a thread? Some might capture more attention than others, but that's ok. Threads have their own lives and the twist and turn as they go along.
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