Posted by Karen_kay on March 12, 2004, at 14:54:31
In reply to I think you agreed with what he said... » Karen_kay, posted by Racer on March 12, 2004, at 13:47:58
then I guess I couldn't agree more. But with Rod and his somewhat nonexistent language I seem to become confused. Or perhaps I just like to argue with him? Hmmmm.. I'll use logic and reason to figure that one out...
But, I took his post to mean that the process of therapy was essentially causing more harm than good, as people were becoming too dependent, or some minor argument became a huge disturbance, etc. I guess perhaps I was wrong. There's a first time for everything, I suppose. :)
Racer, of course I'd see the sincerity in your post. How could I not? Thank you for that. There is one thing though that you said I found rather striking. You referred to therapy as sort of having a cheerleader on the sidelines. The funny thing is that Bubba was more challenging than supportive. In fact, I often complained about his lack of support. It just struck me for a second and maybe it's nothing or perhaps it's something, as we all need soemthing different to finally progress and make the changes we need. And of course, I'm not completely "done" yet either. But I think the fact that he challenged me far more than supported is a large factor in my own personal changes. He was able to say the things that I'd been avoiding and make me talk about the things that I didn't really want to.
But, back to you... Thank you again. I'm pleased you're envious :) Because, if you weren't then that means I'd still be stuck in my personal funk and that wasn't fun. And it wasn't really tough work, per se but it was facing reality. And that's something I don't like to do.
Therapy does give you the tools. You just have to build with them. That's the way it works. I always just thought that was a given. Doesn't everyone see it that way? I'm curious.. Do people here think that their therapist is going to "cure" them? I mean it just doesn't work that way. In the beginning, Bubba always used to correct me when I'd say "When you fix me." Soon I learned to say, "When I fix me with your help" and I meant it.
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