Posted by fallsfall on April 30, 2004, at 12:54:26
In reply to Re: Being practical here . . . » Aphrodite, posted by crushedout on April 30, 2004, at 8:14:36
>The thing about shadows' suggestion, although it's a good one, is I already spend about an hour a day (at least) *every* day writing about and preparing for my sessions. Which admittedly may be a little compulsive. But I end up never having enough time to cover everything I write about, and it all piles up and I get frustrated. That's why I keep asking for more time.
Hmmmmmm. Another thing we have in common. My therapist is really big now on "Therapy isn't life". He really doesn't want me to "prepare" for sessions. This week he told me he doesn't even want me to think of topics - he wants me to just come in "and see what happens". This is very hard for a Planner like me - I would be much more comfortable "studying" each day and "presenting" my work in the session. But I DID that with my first therapist, and we didn't get to where I need to get.
I don't know how, yet, to "get a life" but I do know that I need to do this. If you have any energy or ambition can you try volunteering somewhere (I recommend libraries highly...)? Or join a club (Penny just joined a chorus, for instance)? Or attend a lecture? I do work now 10 hours a week, I used to volunteer. I know I need to get out and do things in the real world, but it is hard because I feel so incompetent.
I do go 3 times a week now, and I find that I DO spend LESS time thinking/worrying/talking/writing about therapy than when I went 2 times a week (and also less than when I went 1 time a week). This works for me because when I see him more often I am more likely to just let something sit (instead of "working" on it) because I know that I can work on it with him soon. I am also trying not to think too far ahead of what we've discussed because when I do and tell him my great revelations he is often less enthusiastic than I am and I have a hard time with that disappointment. So if I think less, I get disappointed less, and he's happier. I am making progress (slow and painful) - so this way of doing it seems a little better.
I'm not sure how much of this applies to you, but this is what I am finding.
(((Crushed)))
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