Posted by KindGirl on May 17, 2004, at 15:11:58
In reply to Abandonment Fear!, posted by Aphrodite on May 17, 2004, at 12:03:37
Hi A,
I am so sorry this triggered all that stuff. My t. tells me all the time she is not going anywhere, and yet I panic each and every day she is leaving me. Can you talk to him about this? I didn't have the courage to talk to her voice to voice about this sort of thing, but I have left her voice messages saying things like, "what makes me think you are not going to dump me like everyone else in my life?" or "I am afraid you are going to leave or die." And she always reassures me, tells me she is commited to me no matter what. It does help to get it out there otherwise it is an elephant in the room everytime you see him and it will just get in the way of everything. I hope you are able to talk to him about it. You could be reading more into it than that. Plus, just because he moves, doesn't mean his office will move, right? Talk to him!!!!I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo sorry. Gosh this hurts. My t is on vacation and right before she left I said something like, "If I were you, I would buy a one way ticket and not come back here." And she said I wasn't getting rid of her that easily and she was coming back. She kept saying that...I am coming back. I am coming back, I am not going to bail on you. Maybe you need to hear those words from him or at least tell him your fears. Good luck. No shame in this....you are doing great.
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