Posted by Racer on May 21, 2004, at 18:47:55
In reply to Re: LOL! Not very, posted by babbgal on May 21, 2004, at 12:49:54
That is very cool, babbgal.
Here's another thought, based on my current situation:
My current and soon to be former therapist is trying to build that kind of relationship with me. She's trying to build trust. She's trying to make me believe that she is there, supportive, all the things that I think you're all saying you feel for your therapists. The problem is, rather than doing much of anything, she *says* 'I really care what happens to you, Racer.' Now, I've been as open as I am capable of being at this point -- ie: not very -- and have told her as much as I could about my experiences with people who say things like, "I want to help you," or "I really care what happens to you," or "I only want the best for you," or anything at all that sounds remotely like that. Short answer: that was always the prelude to something worse happening to me, which always included betrayal by the person who had said that. Sure, that makes it harder for a therapist to work with me. So does the fact that I do not show things on the surface. And then I have the whole guilt thing about it not being the therapist's job to work as hard as it takes to gain my trust enough for me to work effectively in therapy.
Anyway, I just told you that to give you another perspective on your own situations: you have a good, strong, important relationship with your therapists. That's something to celebrate, not something to feel pathetic about!
poster:Racer
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