Posted by shortelise on July 23, 2004, at 11:06:06
In reply to Re: Met T on the road--Update, posted by Blossom on July 23, 2004, at 8:37:02
That's the way it was for me too - I didn't want to give him power because with that power he could hurt me.
But he proved again and again that he wasn't some evil guy who became a therapist so he could plot out the best way to hurt people who came to him for therapy.
He became a psychiatrist in order to help people.
And though therapy is painful - esp the "termination phase" I am going through now - I believe he never purposely caused me pain for the pleasure of it.
On occasion, he did hurt the sh*t out of me, said things that really hurt, but when he understood that, he always told me it hadn't been his intention, that he hadn't known ...
And hearing some truths hurts. But a good therapist helps us find those truths ourselves.I did NOT want to get attached to my guy either but it happens that my attachment is a warm and quiet one, no passion, no lust, but a maternal attachment - he's my mother, in whose presence I can be safe.
It's really, really hard as you obviously know.
Take care
Shorte
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