Posted by Dinah on September 17, 2004, at 16:31:48
In reply to What I am worried about, posted by pinkeye on September 17, 2004, at 13:28:42
It hurts to want more than we can have. But it doesn't always happen in therapy. It happens not infrequently, no doubt about it, but it doesn't always happen.
Some people deliberately choose therapists that they wouldn't want more from. I'm not sure that works, since it might interfere with the therapeutic alliance.
Perhaps this time, the personal dynamics will be such that you'll be perfectly happy just having your therapist as a therapist. Naturally we'd all like them to want to see us without charging, :), but aside from that...
I've been pretty fortunate in that I think my my therapist is terrific to have for a therapist, I care for him as a person, but from what I know about him he's not someone I'd want to hang out with. Maybe that could be your number one criteria? Someone enough dissimilar that you couldn't imagine *wanting* to see them outside therapy, but with fine qualities *as* a therapist.
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