Posted by shrinking violet on October 30, 2004, at 13:48:45
In reply to carrying it with you, posted by underthecs on October 30, 2004, at 9:15:35
>> so how do you carry this feeling of "safety" with you outside of session? that is actually what I am working on right now. I can have conversations with my T in my head, but I can't carry that "feeling" of warmth, caring, being held, etc. with me when I leave.
Good question. I haven't been able to do that yet to a great extent either. Usually (like a child looking back to ensure her mother is still there) I find some reason to email her in-between session, and that brief contact with her can sometimes hold me over until I see her again, but I can't seem to internalize it for a great period of time. There was one week though....it was a few weeks ago....I had a car accident and had to cancel my session that day. The next day, she emailed me and said she was thinking of me, and hoped I was ok. I emailed her back and thanked her and tried to express how much I needed to hear from her and how I appreciated her taking the time to write to me. That brief email exchange really felt nice...and for the first time (probably in forever) I *felt* cared for and "held" and connected to something/someone. The feeling lasted most of the week, and it was really nice and safe. Then, of course, we had session and everything went south from there. But it was nice while it lasted. I never told her about it, though.
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