Posted by Dinah on January 27, 2005, at 22:27:47
In reply to Re: boundaries/ GG » terrics, posted by gardenergirl on January 27, 2005, at 20:30:28
I think the advice to admit to the silly parts was excellent. As you may know, my main problem right now has to do with work, and since my therapist also has coaching experience, I had asked him if he could call on that to help me.
The other day he did that, but he admitted that parts of what he said would sound silly. And they did. But it didn't matter as much, and I didn't get as angry because he had admitted that. Instead of rolling my eyes and sighing, I smiled at him when I felt patronized, and instead of getting defensive, he smiled back and told me the part of the silly stuff he thought was actually helpful.
It took what has always been a huge problem to me with those one size fits all models and made it into something positive.
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