Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 20:16:59
In reply to Re: i suck at therapy » Dinah, posted by Susan47 on February 7, 2005, at 19:59:55
I'm sure it's not just us.
It was mainly something I did after a bad session, when I was angry with him. Or after a session when I couldn't bring myself to say what I wanted to say.
But I also used to call and leave conflicting messages. "Could you please call me?" "No, never mind, I'm fine." "Ignore that last message, I really do need to talk to you." "Oh, I'm horrible to bother you, please just ignore me." "No, no, this is really urgent!" "Oh, I'm just being silly. It can wait."
When I asked he said he didn't mind as long as all messages were left before he contacted me. And that it was an interesting insight into my mind. :)
I don't do that hardly ever anymore. I finally figured out it was less trouble for him if I just called and asked him to call me, then sat tight and waited. Plus, a lot of the internal dynamics that caused my ambivilance got sorted out.
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