Posted by antigua on February 8, 2005, at 10:25:51
In reply to the worst feeling.......just need to get it out, posted by rainbowbrite on February 3, 2005, at 13:28:16
I have done this more than a few times--it's probably why I don't have more friends. IF I feel close enough (even momentarily) to someone that I want to share something about myself that's private, I almost always regret it because they don't treat me the same anymore. But actually, I think it's me most of the time. Letting someone know that I'm vulnerable is very frightening to me. I have turned many good friends away because I'm afraid, and it may not have anything to do with them. I shut people off when they know my secrets.
I'm sure it's a defense mechanism for me, but I know it's not useful anymore.
just didn't want you to think you're alone. It's hard to believe that they are having a problem rather than it being a weakness on my part.
confusing? sorry,
antigua
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