Posted by littleone on February 8, 2005, at 21:07:53
In reply to Re: My therapist's take on odd » mair, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 19:44:41
> I always figured that if I cared enough, I could change enough to conform. I was a teensy bit taken aback today when my therapist didn't seem to think that that was true.
I know you've struggled in the past about being your genuine self and being what others want you to be. Someone (Larry maybe??) talked about something like authenticity units and how the bigger the difference is between your genuine self and the self you put forward to others, the more taxing it is to you to keep up that front. Although I'm sure the other poster said this much better than I did :)
Anyway, I can't recall your reaction to this, but I guess you're saying the same sort of things again. Either conform to what others want, or avoid them altogether.
I know you think you look odd, but I still don't really understand how you act odd or come across as odd. It's very obvious to me that you're a really sweet person under any oddness that may possibly be on the surface. Sometimes I think that it's up to the other people to find the niceness in you. That if they don't take the time to look, it's their loss.
I really liked mair's post about being delightfully odd. And about how it is more important to be involved in your son's activities than to spare him the embarrasement of your oddness. Listen to mair.
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