Posted by daisym on February 13, 2005, at 22:42:07
In reply to Wondering about trusting T...he let me down!, posted by Speaker on February 13, 2005, at 11:59:46
You have good reason to be upset and disappointed. Can I ask some questions? How did you leave the message -- was it in your best, professional voice that did not indicate any distress? "Hi, I'm sorry but I need to cancel my appointment. I had an unexpected death in the family." He may not have realized (he should have) that you really needed to process this with him. I know that last week I left a message for my therapist cancelling when my husband was in the hospital, telling him I wouldn't be there. He didn't call me because I said I would let him know what was going on. We connected on Monday night and he asked me if I wanted to come on Tuesday. But Tuesday was so hectic that I left a message to let him know I would keep my Wed appointment but I think my tone was closed enough that he decided I didn't want him to call. And, I didn't ask him to call me. So he didn't. He followed up on the phone back and forth on Wed, saying that he didn't want to make it worse for me and he got the impression from my voice that I needed the distance.
So...I guess that is a long way to say, bring it up and ask. He may really be one of those therapists who won't call unless you say, "please call me one way or the other."
I'm sorry life is so complicated. Are you doing OK?
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