Posted by crushedout on February 15, 2005, at 22:01:47
In reply to An Update, posted by messadivoce on February 15, 2005, at 14:39:58
Voce,This all sounds horrible and I don't know what to say. The silver lining is that it's clear your T cares so much about you and is willing to still be in touch. I'd make use of that. I'm sure she means it.
The other potential silver lining is that it really is possible to find someone else. I find it hard to believe I'm saying this, but not too long ago I would barely *consider* the possibility of starting over, and now, as much as I miss my ex-T, I'm growing closer to this new one, and appreciating what she brings to the table (which is different from what my ex-T brought -- in some ways better, and in some ways not as good).
Basically, what I've learned through this (and through other experiences in my life) is that we have an infinite capacity to love and appreciate people, and each opportunity to do that with someone new is truly a good thing.
None of that takes away the pain of losing someone special, though. So allow yourself to grieve and know that we all really are here for you.
((((((((voce))))))))))
poster:crushedout
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