Posted by mair on February 16, 2005, at 13:08:19
In reply to Re: benefits of crying ? » mair, posted by sunny10 on February 16, 2005, at 7:59:31
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> "Enquiring minds want to know",I love that expression.
I don't really have much of a clue. My father really disliked it when we cried, at least over something he said or did, but I remember him admonishing my sister about that - not me. Maybe not me because even at a very young age, I had learned to hold things in.
After my father died, my therapist spent a few sessions trying to convince me that there was no reason for me to grieve - my father was quite old, had been in poor health for a long time, and had not really been a positive influence on my life for decades. He and I were not close - not visibly estranged or anything, but I just did what I could to keep my distance because he tended to push certain buttons.
After awhile I convinced her that my inability to grieve was really important to me - that it really bothered me that I wasn't able to tap into or identify with the more positive feelings I had for him when I was younger. We've sort of worked at it from time to time, but without any real success.
This is all maybe just emblamatic of a problem I've had with therapy in general. It's really pretty impossible for me to identify much with any feelings from my childhood, other than maybe anxiousness, even surrounding events I can clearly remember. My T is constantly telling me I must have felt a certain way that I just can't remember.
Sorry I guess this isn't much of an explanation.
Mair
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