Posted by TamaraJ on February 19, 2005, at 10:35:25
In reply to Re: Freud anyone? » sunny10, posted by gardenergirl on February 19, 2005, at 10:21:13
I just wanted to share this experience. My first full-time job I worked with a group of marine surveyors at the Coast Guard. Anyway, one of the guys I worked with and report to (but not my immediate boss) was a real yeller - always flying off the handle. I had been working there about 6 months and was still in my extremely shy, conversations to a minimum adjustment phase (which is normal for me, it usually takes me a good while to be comfortable and open up in any situation). Anyway, a mistake was made while this guy was away on business and it caused him some embarrassment (in the grand scheme of things, it was small stuff). So, he starts in on one of his rants, yelling, pointing fingers, at the guy who was taking care of things while he was away and me. I was freaking. Not only was all this taking place out in the open for everyone to hear, but I was still new and extremely introverted and nervous about my new environment (I didn't want ANYTHING to draw attention to me). So, I am sitting there shaking inside and getting dangerously close to losing my lunch and all of a sudden I burst out laughing - I became almost hysterical. This guy stops yelling and looks at me and asks me what is so funny. In a quivering voice, still trying to avoid getting sick to my stomach, I say something like - you are, carrying on like this in front of people, it's embarrassing. I was sure I was in for a tongue lashing and that he would perhaps have the boots put to me. Not the case. From that point on, he treated me with such respect and kindness. He brought me gifts from his international trips, he and his wife gave me christmas and birthday gifts, he shared parts of his life with me (including worries about his wife's cancer). What a switch.
Tamara
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