Posted by TamaraJ on February 19, 2005, at 13:32:32
In reply to NO therapy success??, posted by rainbowbrite on February 19, 2005, at 9:53:43
Hi Rain,
I was starting to worry about you because I hadn't seen you post for a while. Good to see you!:-)
Anyway, I am sorry about your therapy dilema. I am certainly no expert, but I will offer up something until more knowledgeable people repond to your post. So, here goes. It sounds like it just isn't a good fit between you and your current therapist. If you feel you are getting nowhere and your therapist is not able to bring you along, then you are right - you are paying a lot of money just to have a "gab session". That being said, it sounds like you feel you would benefit from therapy. So, maybe as a first step you could be open with your current therapist about what you see as her limitations and inadquacies in terms of your particular situation (obviously you won't want to be that blunt). And, you might want to start shopping around for a new therapist that will more appropriately and adequately meet your needs. I don't know if this is possible, but perhaps you can call a few therapists and have a brief discussion with them on the phone about your needs and goals to see if one appears to you to be in a position to meet your expectations.
I wish you the best. You obviously have a tough decision to make. Good luck, and take good care of yourself.
Tamara
(formerly jujube)
> I think I am about to throw in the towel, I have been thinking about therapy and I really don't feel like my therapist is useful AT ALL. Just expensive. I just read a post that sounded like my T and it has helped me to realize that not all Ts are good. In fact I think some are truely not invested in their clients and only for financial gain. I don't care if my T likes me or thinks about me, All I want is to know that I am getting what I pay for! Knowlegde and guidnece and a safe place to discuss. I don't feel attached in anyway to my T, I wouldn't really miss my T if I had to stop, I don't think about my T per se, out of therapy. ONLY how I will get through some of my issues, does that make sense? My T obviously has a part in that, but if I could do what is needed to get past my screwed up psyche by talking to a cat than I would. And I think a cat would give more reasurrance than my T. grrr! I have an upcoming apointment and I think it will be termination time. I just need some advice or something. How do I do this? I have spoken about my T many times before but I feel like Im getting nowhere. Of course I am part of the mess, but a therapist is trained, the patient is not trained to be a perfect patient. My life would be wonderful if I could just get past one thing (at least I think so)And I can't keep doing this it is becoming exhausting :(
> Thanks for any help!
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