Posted by Shortelise on February 21, 2005, at 12:55:58
In reply to feelings about T, posted by JLynn on February 21, 2005, at 3:01:11
You think your new T is holding back - could it be that you are holding back because your old T left you, and you are putting these feelings on to your new T instead of feeling them yourself?
Could it be that your last T left you, you feel abandoned and so you are afraid to get atteched - you say that a litttle in your post I guess.
Attachemnt of a client to a T can be what makes therapy work, according to better minds than mine.
It seems like I say this over and over to myself: if it's an issue, I need to talk about it with my T. It's always the stuff that scariest to talk about that seems to be the most important. And it's the resolution of the scary stuff that makes for progress. It would be so nice if we could just chat about the weather and my emotional crap would just dissolve.
It is not necessarily unethical for your T to correspond with you. Therapy by mail would be a bit strange, and might not be very helpful if you are trying to establish a relationship with a new T, though. Again, if you wonder about this, talk about it. You could ask your old T if the new T knows the two of you are writing!
I exchange occasional letters with the psychiatrist I saw ... 30years ago. It's nice.
Take care. Keep us posted, if you wouldn't mind.
Hugs, ShortE
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