Posted by mair on February 24, 2005, at 16:23:50
In reply to Re: For vs. About » Aphrodite, posted by Speaker on February 24, 2005, at 15:17:24
Maybe these are distinctions without differences. In order to "care for" the client, the therapist needs to figure out what the client's needs are and how they can be met.
What bothers me about your situation, is that regardless of whether he was justified in thinking that he didn't have to call you back, you've now told him how bad that made you feel, and I haven't heard that he's apologized at all for hurting you, even if it was entirely inadvertent. It all sounds pretty defensive. What I used to really hate was when my T would pass off any angry reactions I had to her as transference at work, as if that somehow absolved her of any responsibility. She'll still sometimes point out to me that something she did hurt me because it replayed some long ago hurt, and she'll sometimes defend whatever it was that she did, but she'll also express remorse that she didn't pick up on what I needed. At least she's acknowledging my hurt and its validity.
Has your therapist done anything here other than explain why he didn't think he had to call?
Mair
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