Posted by alexandra_k on March 1, 2005, at 14:33:58
In reply to Re: More Freud stuff ...and new insight ***trigger**** » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on March 1, 2005, at 7:09:59
>LOL, somehow I think my very pale skin and red hair might get noticed, blanket or not. :)
There aren't any full blooded Maori around anymore. All of them have the odd European (at the very least) in their ansestry now. That means some are lighter than others, and some even have red hair. There are also people who have been adopted by Maori (either when they were children or just by marrying someone in touch with their culture). I knew a lady who was very very scottish (blonde hair and blue eyes and freckles) who had a crap childhood, married someone of Maori ansestry and now considers herself Maori - and they accepted her fine.
> I didn't like the reaction I got from his brother, who I think was just trying to compliment me. I forget what he said, but sheesh, you aren't supposed to tell me you noticed, unless you are my sweetie!
Yeah, I understand.
> But my insight has me feeling a bit more motivated to get healthy, even if that means getting a bit more attractive.Yeah. I have decided to try to lose weight too (by eating healthier in my case).
> Well, I really hate that I feel that way about it. I never did prior to the rape. I even feel that way now about sex with my hubby, who is being very very understanding.Yeah. I understand.
> But it is a very personal intrusion on your personal space. At least if invited, it's not a violation, but still a very personal space issue.Yes. Though if it is invited then I guess I wouldn't see it as an 'intrusion'. But I think I get you. Once you have been intruded upon that way I guess it is hard to see it differently.
I am sorry that that happened to you. And to others as well. I don't know what to say.
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