Posted by Dinah on April 30, 2005, at 13:54:08
In reply to Re: Shrinking Violet (hands on hips) » Dinah, posted by shrinking violet on April 30, 2005, at 13:27:11
But I'm probably old enough to be your mother (ouch!) and I am a mother.
I've been around this world for 43 years, and my first introduction to therapy was at age 13. Life sucks... sometimes. And it's beautiful and worth living... sometimes. When you're in the bad spots it's hard to see that there will be good times ahead. But there will be good times ahead. Sometimes against your will. :)
There are things in this life that you are meant to do. You may not have found them yet, but they're there.
Losing someone you love hurts like hell, and there's no way around that. All you can do is endure until time dulls the pain.
Feeling like you aren't worthy hurts like hell, but there are lots of ways around that. I can think of a few right off the top of my head.
You're too young to think that things can't be better. If I had thought that at my worst, my son wouldn't be here today. There are some dogs with health problems who might not have found loving and accepting homes. My father would have died bitter and lonely.
It's hard to see it now, but it is true. If you hang on through the worst, things do get better. You love again. You hurt again. You make the world a bit better than it would have been without you. You screw up and make it a bit worse. You do all of those things, because everyone does. Life does go on after a loss, even if you don't want it to. And there is joy and meaning in life after a loss, even if you don't really want there to be.
Don't give up.
poster:Dinah
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