Posted by pinkeye on May 1, 2005, at 12:07:58
In reply to Re: How do I forgive » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on May 1, 2005, at 7:33:32
Tamar, thanks for the post. That makes sense.
I am beginnning to think I am at the end of all the venting that I need to do, and whether I am able to forgive my dad or not, I am ready to make peace.
But my therapist keeps insisting, that it is too soon for me to make peace. That I need to allow myself to feel angry towards my dad. In fact she even tries to kind of flame my anger more than what I express in the sessions. She says there is lot of hidden anger and hurt, and unless I experience it, it will be suppressed and will be harming my body. But I really don't feel the anger though. I feel like being defensive on my dad for the most part, and she thinks I am wrong. She things, I was the victim, and I was kind of abused, that I have all the patterns of a child who was abused emotionally. She keeps repeating that I am a victim even though I try to tell her that my father loves me a lot, and never meant to hurt me really. She wants me to feel more anger than I am feeling. And I am not capable of feeling more anger.
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