Posted by daisym on June 2, 2005, at 21:16:49
In reply to Same issue, different parent » Daisym, posted by antigua on June 2, 2005, at 7:57:05
Should I even point out the HUGE freudian slip??
Things with my mother are really complicated too. My sister emailed me that she is coming but she is really scared, she hasn't talked to our dad for 6 months but she thinks she has mostly "forgiven" him. Oh, and she stopped therapy.
So among other things today, I was weepy about it taking me sooooo long and I didn't see how to even begin to think about forgiveness. I wonder sometimes if this work is easier if your parent isn't still here to forgive. My therapist said he doesn't think so. He also said it seems really "premature" for my sister to be forgiving. But sometimes people force these things at termination of therapy. He was careful to say that she may truly have reached this place, but that didn't mean I had to, now or ever. I can't talk to my sister because she doesn't know about my abuse (I'm a lot older); I just know about hers.
Family gatherings make therapy even tougher, don't they? I'm sorry your therapist is gone, mine is leaving at the end of June. I figure I'll hold it together through all of this and then completely go under the week he is gone. Timing, as they say, is everything.
Let me know how you are doing. I'll be thinking of you.
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