Posted by fallsfall on July 28, 2005, at 18:41:17
Hi Ms. Lott,
First let me say that I take your book with me when I travel - sort of like a therapy security blanket. When I'm missing my therapist, I can read your book and "feel" therapized. You really get it. Thanks for putting it in writing.
When people switch therapists they often wonder whether to go to a man or a woman. Many people think that if they had a problem with their father that a man will help bring out the issues better - but others who had problems with their fathers are afraid of men.
When I was interviewing candidates for my second therapist, I asked the question of whether I should go to a man or a woman. The answer by my current therapist (a man) was that I should choose a good therapist. That transference would occur regardless of the therapist's sex. I found this to be true: six weeks after I changed therapists I had the exact same transferece issues with my new (male) therapist that I had with my old (female) therapist.
Do you think that there are particular issues/situations where people should be insistant on a therapist of a particular sex? I wouldn't encourage my friend who is terrified of men to see a man, but other than that?
Thanks for coming here to Babble, and thanks for your book!
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