Posted by messadivoce on July 29, 2005, at 19:11:52
In reply to Lott: Q on termination and post term contact, posted by pinkeye on July 29, 2005, at 15:00:59
My therapist told me that I could write to him and "to call whenever I wanted". And then 2 months later, when I asked him when would be a good time to call, he told me that I couldn't. He stopped writing lengthy replies to my e-mails. I wrote him a letter telling him how much it hurt me, and he replied that "the professional guidelines state that there is to be no contact for 2 years after termination, and many therapists believe that there should never be contact."
His replies to my e-mails have been a few sentences. It hurts, but it is a hurt I can live with, I guess. I keep writing him every so often, and I don't know why I do because I'm always hurt a little when he shoots back 3 sentences. If he had told me upfront what the post-termination rules of contact were going to be, I could have been prepared. It's just too hard to match the coolness of his messages to the warm, compassionate man I knew.
And by the way, he never even apologized for telling me something he wasn't prepared to honor later.
poster:messadivoce
thread:535336
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050725/msgs/535416.html