Posted by Tamar on July 31, 2005, at 17:26:39
In reply to Re: Terminations, posted by LauraBeane on July 31, 2005, at 16:23:26
Hello LB, and welcome to Babble!
It’s true: termination is a compelling issue.
I’m sure that even if all your therapist’s patients are special, you’re still a particularly special person to him. I think it’s a bit like having kids (I have three). They’re all special in their own particular ways. They’re all different but all infinitely special to me. I like to think that good therapists feel much the same way about their clients.
I’m curious about your therapist’s comment that you will both know when progress is no longer being made. To me that seems an odd way to put it. I finished therapy four months ago because so much progress had been made that I was no longer horribly depressed, and I didn’t need my therapist the way I used to. But maybe I didn’t quite understand the point you were making.
I really think that in an ideal world you will feel ready for it when the time comes. It’s terribly difficult to imagine when you’re in the middle of therapy. Sometimes I think it’s better not to worry about it too much at this stage. Of course you want him to stay with you always. And for now he *is* with you, and presumably you’re doing the work you need to do together. I would say: don’t be too frightened. If you’re not ready yet, then you’re just not ready. When you eventually are ready, it won’t be so frightening.
Tamar
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