Posted by happyflower on September 22, 2005, at 16:49:37
In reply to Re: Talked to my T today about this, posted by Joslynn on September 22, 2005, at 14:21:43
> You know, your cousin is probably in such a state of shock, she wouldn't notice in detail who shows up and who doesn't. The safety of you and your family comes first I think. You can always send a nice card with a handwritten note. Her family is gone now, but you and your family are still alive, and protecting them is more important in this case. Your mental health is worth protecting as well. I would avoid it altogether. Send a card and say a prayer instead. Just my .02.
Thanks for the advice Joslynn. I think I might try to avoid it all together. It will be a HUGE funeral and viewing since it was a young kid and father in a small town and we have a huge family. It would hard to avoid her once I got there, I might have to wait in a long line just to talk to her. My mind is going in circles about all of this. I feel like I do want to be there, but yet I am afraid of my mother. Life just isn't fair, you know.
As hard as I am trying to heal from the abuse, it seems like you can't avoid all of it, things like this reminds you of it. Some people just suck.
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