Posted by 10derHeart on October 10, 2005, at 20:02:36
In reply to Re: Thanks all.. » rabidreader, posted by orchid on October 10, 2005, at 19:23:27
I think....it might be hard to see or imagine here on Babble, that it's very possible for women to become deeply attached, in love with even, filled with painful longings for, miserable missing and obsessing over all the time, etc.....a female T. Because I can't recall any posters ever posting about that scenario here. ???
And I do mean women of any orientation, specificall, that straight women are the ones I've read about most in places other than Babble, who sometimes suffer just as greatly, including with erotic tranference (even tougher for them to sort out and understand) when seeing a female T. they become close to over time.
I think Lott's book definitely outlines some of those painful relationships well, if I recall - haven't opened it for a while.
Point being, there would be NO guarantee in the future you - or anyone - wouldn't have a similar thing happen with a women. But, if you're just trying to reduce the likelihood, based on past experience and plain old common sense - I do get that. I really do.
Just my random thoughts.
And one request, Orchid...
>>too goddamn afraid <<
...if you could not use the G.D. expression, I'd appreciate it. It bothers me. Guess it's not considered a "bad" word by the filter at this time, but it is one to me. No hard feelings, just a request from me to you :-)
You sound so well, and sort of "steady," BTW, hope it remains. That's a good place to be.
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