Posted by javableue on October 17, 2005, at 20:25:36
In reply to Re: Can't keep working or quit. *maybe slight trig* » javableue, posted by terrics on October 17, 2005, at 10:26:20
>Wow! Why would you think your problems are less than others?
They just seem to be. I know that shouldn't matter, and if anyone I know were to tell me they worried about speaking about their problems because they were so minor, I would tell them there is no hierarchy of pain, it's important for them to vent as needed in a safe environment, etc... but I have trouble taking it to heart for my own situation. Also I guess a situation at school doesn't help... one of my friends is in a truly rough home situation, and the staff love her to death. So every time I need help, it's all "How is so-and-so?" and "Well, at least it's not as bad as so-and-so," and "I hope you're there for so-and-so," which, while I can appreciate that they care about her and she needs help badly, doesn't quite seem appropriate when I'm coming to them precisely because I'm overwhelmed! I guess I'm just used to my worries being considered as nothing and it takes a lot of pressure off to "warn" people.
Another thing is I feel so unqualified to post supportive messages (sometimes rightly, but sometimes I do have something to say and don't because I'm afraid I'll seem awkward), and I do feel bad about posting such a long message myself, under the circumstances.
>The one thing I feel I would think about alot if I were you is not your relationship with your therapist, but with your boyfriend. Your therapist may be a big help with that. terrics
Yeah, that's been a hard topic lately. I can't tell if things have changed in the relationship, period, or if it's just that I've become so caught up in my issues that it's affecting things. I hadn't really brought it up before last session, but my T seems pretty open to it.
Thank you for your post, terrics.
jb
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