Posted by All Done on May 24, 2006, at 16:32:21
In reply to My mother - Trigger maybe, posted by Dinah on May 24, 2006, at 15:38:42
Dinah,
My mom creates her own realities *all the time*. Nothing ever matches up with my sisters' and my version of anything. I think this is a coping skill from early on in her childhood. We've come to the conclusion that she believes what she is saying - *truly* believes it. There's no point in arguing with her, she "knows" she's right and it only creates frustration for us.
That doesn't make my reality hurt any less, though. In fact, most of the time, I hurt more because she can't acknowledge the truth. I want validation and sometimes apologies from her, but neither will ever happen.
Admittedly, I've forgotten a ton of my childhood. I believe it was an effective way for me to deal with a lot of hurt. I think there are a lot of reasons people might forget things. The difference between me and my mom? I don't fill in the blanks with a story when I don't remember.
Daisy's right. Mom stuff is hard.
Take gentle care,
Laurie
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