Posted by laima on July 21, 2006, at 7:46:02
In reply to Re: I think that's only part of the story... » laima, posted by Racer on July 21, 2006, at 1:29:05
Thank you for your post, and for letting me know you understood the sentiment that I was trying to share and convey- I was getting really nervous there.> > If you are talking about me (laima), I obviously have a problem communicating clearly.
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> I disagree with this part -- I think you did express yourself pretty well. ;-)
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> >I originally wanted to express that I feel awful that some people in my life seem to be accusing or suggesting I have caused my own disfunction/mental illness issues, that I am faking, lazy, looking for attention, and so on. Some of these people have just plain shunned me or keep themselves distant or are judgemental, as if a "pep talk" can end a serious depression.
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> LOL! Yeh, well, try it with anorexia... "All you have to do is eat something, you can do that, surely?" Wow! It's that simple? Hallelujah!! I'm CURED!!!!
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> Yes, not only do some people truly think that a pep talk will cure you, but some will tell you what worked for them, because it's guaranteed to work for you -- oh, yeah, taking country line dancing lessons will fix all my problems... (why isn't there an emoticon for crossed eyes?)
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> I dunno. I think many people act out of fear, even if that isn't clear at the time.
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> But a lot of people act from good intentions, especially when they do the pep talk thing. (My aunt is a great example -- one of her pep talks to my husband, telling him how to fix me, was the immediate precursor to a suicide attempt on my part...) They mean well, poor ignorant dears...
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> >I think some people toss around terms like "depressed" casually, and I think that practice does many of us who genuinely struggle with depression or other mood disorder a great injustice by confusing what "depression" is. Yes, every human suffers, but not everyone has their life disintigrate into a persistent disfunction as a result.
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> Yes. I agree. And the people who do say things like, "oh, I'm soooo depressed," when they really mean, "oh, I'm bored..." or "oh, I'm disatisfied by what's happening right now," really do a diservice to all us. But I won't go into that, because I'm wearing slippers, and if I do, I'll have to go get shoes to bang on the table...
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> >>I am very sorry for my clutzy communication. English isn't even my native language and I don't have a great way with words always anyway.
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> Your English is excellent. The subject matter is sensitive, and I think this may have been a case where the topic brings up strong feelings that sometimes can cloud the reading -- largely because, I think, we've all experienced some form of the thing you're describing.
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> > Perhaps this is a futile discussion of semantics?
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> Again, I think what you wrote was pretty clear. I do think there was one sentence that may have been confusing, but only the one. And even with that, it was still understandable.
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> Heck -- you do better than a lot of native English speakers...
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