Posted by Jost on August 7, 2006, at 12:26:52
In reply to Re: why?? **sexual trigger** » Karolina, posted by Dinah on August 7, 2006, at 9:18:44
Karolina, I'm so sorry you had to witness that when growing up and even now, at home, as a young adult.
It seems that your parents for some reason didn't learn appropriate boundaries-- ie, what it is and isn't all right to do, or how to act, with other people, so as to establish and respect separateness. On many dimensions.
Their sexual actions are probably only the tip of the iceberg, as they say, in this.
I wish you could ask you Dad to put the porn away, or talk to your parents and ask them to do it together. But it depends a lot on your relationship. If you could, it would be part of learning to protect yourself, beginning to create boundaries, and thus to be in a safer place.
That's an extremely important thing to do. I'm sure, over time, this will be part of your work with your T.
But for the summer, are there things you can do to change the situation, and to make it at least less likely that you'll be exposed to things that are so disturbing?
Jost
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