Posted by Dinah on August 15, 2006, at 10:58:37
In reply to Do you see what I hear?, posted by Daisym on August 14, 2006, at 23:57:39
I think some words are emotionally loaded. Even if they are said with the exact same volume and no added emphasis they scream at the people who are attuned to them.
If I hear really in that sort of context, it really screams REALLY. I think I'm getting better in that I try to check it out in the moment.
My therapist says the other day that he chooses his words very carefully because he knows that when he phrases things certain ways, I hear it as differently than he meant it. I told him that I'd prefer that he not be so careful, and sure enough, there are more misunderstandings. But in the end, I'm sure it's better for me to not be coddled.
Don't worry about it. I think it's normal, and something to be aware of for the sake of understanding, but not to beat yourself up over.
poster:Dinah
thread:676556
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