Posted by Dinah on January 23, 2007, at 11:48:00
Something suddenly burst into my brain as the explanation for what my therapist said yesterday. It's very unlikely given ages, but not absolutely impossible.
There are definitely reasons against self disclosure. And there are definitely even better reasons why they shouldn't disclose a little without disclosing everything.
And don't even ask that I ask him about it. It's something I could never ever ever ask anyone about. And it's nothing he'd say yes or no to even if I did ask.
And I have even less desire (and so would he I assure you) to explore why this particular thought popped in my mind. Moreover, I know why this particular thought popped into my mind, and there's no need to explore it.
And no, it's not about sex. I just can't stop thinking that he's trying not to tell me that he's going to be having a baby. Well his wife.
I know he wouldn't answer because years ago he left a congratulatory card on his desk, and I asked him about it. He said it was for his birthday, but it wasn't that sort of congratulations. All the people he worked with had signed it "congratulations" not "happy birthday". He had it propped up on his desk as if he were showing it off, although it was gone the next time I was there. I knew he was lying, but figured it was his own business. Six months later he told me he was getting married in a month or two weeks or something. He had every right to keep that to himself. It was none of my business. It was even ok to lie to me about it, although it would have been nicer if he just hadn't displayed the card. He told me I was the first client he'd told about it, and I believe him. I never brought any of this up with him of course.
But that's why I can't ask. Because it's none of my business.
poster:Dinah
thread:725539
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