Posted by vwoolf on January 27, 2007, at 0:43:10
In reply to Friends are confusing., posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 0:10:51
Daisy, how awful. It sounds like she expressed all the cruelest thoughts and doubts that you carry in your head about therapy and that you struggle so much to overcome. You know she's wrong.
On a deep level there are things you just know are different now. You know how intimately connected you and your t are. It's not just your imagination. It is a dependency, but one that you need, have always needed, and that at last is being filled. He will not get sick of you. He has shown you that over and over. You know that this is good for you, even though it may hurt.
I think she is repeating the old cruel voices from the past. You need to hold to what is new and different about this relationship so that you can contradict those old ways of relating. This is your hope for the future, your hope for change. Don't push it away again.
Don't let her words get to you. You know what she says is not true.
Sending very warm strong thoughts.
poster:vwoolf
thread:726973
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