Posted by toojane on February 2, 2007, at 18:13:54
In reply to Re: Why can't I talk? (long...what else is new?), posted by peddidle on February 2, 2007, at 17:42:49
> That's a good idea, toojane.I'm glad you found it helpful (I find it so strange offering other people advice because I'm such a mess. That whole "do as I say, not as I do" thing. I'd feel more comfortable if I was sane and together and cured and could say "look, this definitely works" but I can't because I'm not. I am a work in progress)
>I think I'm kind of worried about becoming too attached to her; I already think about her too much as it is (transference, I'm sure), and I don't want to start relying on emailing her too much between sessions. I'm not worried so much that it will annoy her, although I can't imagine it wouldn't, but I just don't want to become even more dependent on her than I already am.
Hmmm. Can I share a conclusion I've recently reached? I don't know what problems you are struggling with but I assume you are not happy, perhaps profoundly unhappy? There are many things you could do to try to cope but you have chosen therapy. If you are going to do therapy, then do therapy. I think I've just figured out it's not something you can really do halfway out of self-protection and hope it will still work. You have to jump in with both feet and really put all your effort into it. You have known your T for two years so you probably have a good sense whether she is trustworthy and ethical by now.Do therapy, which means getting attached and talking about all the hard stuff and working through it. Or don't do therapy and find some other way of coping. But make a choice either way. It may bring you some peace.
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