Posted by Karolina on February 4, 2007, at 22:39:14
In reply to The Next big Step :-) = update, posted by ElaineM on February 2, 2007, at 22:36:05
Hey Elaine,
Your T said some really nice things to you which you definitely deserved to hear and I’m glad you’ve been feeling good lately. I guess your situation just has me thinking about things from a different perspective.
I mean, as strongly as I feel about my T, it overwhelmed me enough when he just emailed me every week while I moved to a different city, so I can’t imagine ever getting flowers from him, dinner, movies, etc. That would just seriously mess with my head, because I feel so strongly about him. But I don’t know if that’s the case for you; if you feel a strong emotional/physical attraction to him, or if it just feels more like somebody that’s there for you right now.
I just hope he isn’t holding you back from real relationships with other men. That he isn’t trying to seduce you by saying kind things to you and giving you gifts, and then making you feel like you can’t meet other guys because it might make him angry or feel “hurt”.
Your T is sitting there wanting you to be proud of him because he is seeing HIS T. I guess it is good that he is, so that he can try to talk out his feelings for you and get a better grasp on you guys’ situation, but I just wonder if it’s really best he is telling you all that.
Or maybe what I really mean is that I hope he isn’t making you pay him anymore, making you pay him to have to listen to him talk about seeing his T.
I know you are probably thinking I am saying this all out of jealousy but I really just care. I know I’m not sugar-coating things and maybe I should, because it’s not my intentions to offend you or upset you, but I just still see a lot of red flags from what you are saying.
I’ve been in situations as well as many of my close friends have, where guys will lie and say anything to a girl who feels bad about herself so that they can get laid. or they will manipulate a girl who can’t stand up for herself. so I just don’t want to see that happen to you. Please be careful and take care,
Karolina
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