Posted by Honore on May 7, 2007, at 18:33:09
In reply to Re: Crying » Honore, posted by jammerlich on May 7, 2007, at 16:49:09
I think whatever it was that started you feeling worse must have had some meaning. Maybe it wasn't obvious, but it must have felt like something particular that is hurtful, more than whatever happened yesterday.
I don't think it's your tolerance for stress or frustration; it's that sometimes things happen that touch off memories or recall experiences that were really bad, and that seems irrational, but it isn't. When you reexperience those older things, in the guise of something immediate, it's a really awful thing.
Even though you're very sad now, you aren't destined always to be sad. Some sense of sadness may linger for a long time, but that really isn't who you are. It's just particularly intense and close to the surface right now, because you're experiencing losses-- and those put you in touch in a more constant way with sadness.
But I was much sadder for a long time, and it didn't last, even though I thought it would. I think when it seems to important, it starts to feel relentless and defining-- but we are more changeable, over time, that we can imagine. Even though it is hard, and sometimes seems impossible.
Honore
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