Posted by muffled on May 24, 2007, at 23:21:03
In reply to Stuff my T said, posted by jammerlich on May 24, 2007, at 18:56:36
> In session today, we were talking about my teacher friend and an email she sent last week and how she's completely unavailable. My T said something about how sometimes when people are depressed, their friends do what they can and then get to a point where they move away. I heard that it's my fault and I pushed teacher friend away.....because she did a lot and I didn't respond in the right way.
*Sh*t Jammer, I woulda taken that way wrong too. But I taken stuff my T has said wrong before, and stewed bout it for ages.....then finally talked bout it, and it turns out it was a misunderstanding...
MAYBE, what T meant was that depression is really hard on you, and on those around you who care, cuz they hate to see you hurting and dunno what to do, so they pull away in self defense, cuz they can't handle it. Depression is an absolute horror, partly due to the fact that those who not been there just can't understand it, nor would I want them to really. BUT, depression is treatable thankfully. I been badly depressed, but now I just plain old f*cked up!And hell, I'll take FUp over major depression...So I think mebbe T is trying to be straight w/you and thats REAL good, cuz i think its real important that T's be straight w/us.
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> Then, after my session (the second of the week), my stupid soon-to-be-ex dropped what felt like a bombshell in my lap. And I called T to talk about it. She asked if I wanted to try and come in tomorrow. I said I felt bad about coming in so much. She said we wouldn't want to do it all the time because she doesn't want me to feel like I can't take care of things myself, but that sometimes it's OK. I told her I thought I'd pass because I'm afraid of when she'll tell me it's not OK. That just felt really awful for me to hear. I can do things myself....I always have. Is it just best to keep it that way? I guess I've always felt like I err on the side of not letting people help. Perhaps she sees things differently. Whatever the case, I don't think I'll be calling or asking for extra sessions anymore. And maybe it's just time to stop all together.**Awww son of a gun, smackin them boundary walls is NASTY, been there done that, nuttin but sucks no doubt. But it passes...I survived.
So I think ESPECIALLY if she was asking if you wanted more sessions, then mebbe its a good idea, if you can swing it financially. Cuz i do the 1x/wk thing and definately I think there were times I would have moved ahead if I could have gone more often, but stuff gets lost during a week btwn sessions, and it just seems to end up continuously being crisis control....
So ya, if you working thru something I think extra sessions would be great!
Don't run from your T OK Jammer, and I won't run from mine either.
Take care you,
Muffly
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