Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2007, at 12:57:50
"Fond"
He said it without prompting, he said it teasingly, and he said it in the midst of another related idea. And when I was too preoccupied to respond, he made sure I'd heard him. I let him know that I had, and appreciated that he had used a manner and word that he knew really meant something to me.
I felt fondness radiating from him today. It was in his smile. I said something that was probably not psychologically healthy, but I'd folded my arms (metaphorically) and stated that I was unwilling to change. And he smiled with knowing understanding, and yes, fondness.
We were even talking about the times that we might not like each other too much, and I was checking to see if he felt committed enough to stick with me even as feelings changed.
Even while he admitted that yes, there might be times he didn't like me in the moment, he would see those moments in the context of our entire relationship (I think this is where the fond statement came in somehow), that yes he was committed to the relationship. And I don't know how someone can sound so fond and affectionate when stating that there would be times he didn't like me, but he managed.
The main topic of conversation was the very positive real life outcome from the previous session, and how I felt he had shifted something in me that had been everpresent for over twenty years. I guess he felt happy and gratified about that.
It was such a very warm session, and I feel so cared about and held in fond affection. :)
I just wanted to share.
poster:Dinah
thread:770117
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