Posted by Racer on July 23, 2007, at 13:41:55
In reply to Re: Define traditions? » Racer, posted by muffled on July 23, 2007, at 1:40:58
> >> Sigh.
> I messed up all right. We half the time eat kraft dinner or soup[ and crackers or canned stuff. Everybody complained bout my cooking, so I don't cook no more :0(
>Or maybe your family tradition is that Mom doesn't cook? I've got that sort of family tradition, too -- I say I learned to cook in self-defense, which sounds like a joke, but... Truly -- my mother can make the fourteen course holiday meals, which I could never manage in a million years, but she used to set the broiler on fire trying to make hamburgers, or she'd get distracted and wander away while trying to broil lamb chops. (My mother's got her own disordered eating issues, and the real problem was that she was afraid of eating too much, so denied any pleasure in food.) A good friend of mine was known for things like setting off her fire extinguisher when she turned on her oven -- because it was always so dusty from disuse. That can be a family tradition, too.
Maybe instead of thinking in terms of creating traditions, you could think in terms of Something Special -- maybe one day a month will be a Something Special day for your kids? Maybe go to the park, or the beach, or the local aquarium, or the zoo, or the arcade -- whatever would be a Something Special for your kids. You don't have to say anything to anyone about planning to continue it, just do it. And I'd almost guarantee that your kids will look back and remember, "Mom used to take us out for Something Special, remember?"
Your kids have a lovely mother, Muff. Don't you forget it. I said so, and you know I'm *always* right!
Peace.
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