Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2007, at 13:28:35
In reply to If the above post is unclear, and sorry its LONG, posted by muffled on July 24, 2007, at 12:19:23
Please don't feel stupid. You aren't stupid!
If these things were clear, therapy wouldn't be useful.
It sounds like you're looking more for answers from your therapist?
It drove me crazy that my therapist often didn't know as much as I did about what was going on, much less more. I wanted him to know and understand what I didn't. I wanted someone who could fix things.
And he doesn't know, and he can't fix.
Sometimes I read about other people's therapists and it sounds as if their therapists *do* know.
I don't know. Eventually I think my therapist provided a safe space for me to think about things, and a companion along the way.
I don't think I know anymore if that's enough. At least not in an abstract theoretical sort of way.
What would my therapist do? He'd try to figure out what I was saying. He would try to figure out what it meant to me. And he'd figure it out by having me explain it often enough that it became clear to both of us.
If that makes sense.
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